Over the holiday I got a bit tired of listening to the same subscribed podcast content so I challenged myself to listen to shows I wouldn’t normally do or I had heard but did not want to commit to full subscription just yet. So here are some of those fantastic episodes.
- Young Love – Where should we begin by Esther Perel.
- I felt my back stand up when I first listened to her views on infidelity so I wasn’t open at all but I liked it so much I listened to this other episode on sexlessness.
- Radio Diaries’ Teenage Diariesrevisited. I love that kind of radio soooo much. I was hanging on the edge of my seat listening. Definitely subscribing. As a teen I would have loved to participate in such an activity, to be honest, even now I would.
- Other episode I loved was Thembi’s Diary.
- BBC Woman’s Hour had a phone-in on Monday on #Megxit. Hot mess.
- I love that Motherhood Sessions is back but jeez that first episode? Messy.
- Borders Between Us by The Nod stressed to me how as parents we do the best for our kids and hope.
- I have been listening to this podcast following three pregnant teens (ethics and judgment suspended) and in this episode we meet four generations of teen moms in one family. Give it a listen, it’s nothing like what you expect.
- Still Processingdiscussed Michelle Obama’s book Becoming. JUST GO AND LISTEN. IT’S GOOD.
I know it’s a lot but do yourself a favour and just listen.
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At Church we are covering a series on Grace and so far the study has reminded me of two things that I would like to share today.
The definition of grace is “unearned, unmerited and undeserved kindness and favour of God.” Grace is free and has all to do with God and His love for us a sinful, unfaithful and undeserving people.
Sometimes we forget this meaning and so it’s the third thing that we often forget and so I thought it wise to begin there. Now onto the things that I have actually learnt.
- No sin is bigger than God’s grace. There is nothing that we can do that will set us apart from the grace of God. Because if there were, it would negate the very definition of grace.
- We have to accept this grace on our own behalf. In that sense it’s personal but it’s also possible that you can reject it and miss out because we choose the penalty (death – the wage for sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ [Rom 6:23]) over and over again.
- Lastly, due to our nature, we can get very transactional with God. If you do this, I will …. I thought I didn’t do this but I see that I quite often do this I still bargain and negotiate and try to “please” God so I am slowly learning to rest in His completed work and to be still.
I pray that I continue to meditate on these truths always.
I read 38 books in 2018 but with the birth of my daughter I only made it to 21 last year which I am very proud of.
See the full list below.
Key: *** Highly Recommend ** Yeah, why not read it *Nah, only read if you have nothing else (No star) I have no feelings on the book
- The Believers – Rebecca Makkai ***
- Becoming – Michelle Obama *** I initially feared that the hype would be larger than the content of the book so I read it much later and I loved it. My only regret was by then all the book clubs had already met and discussed it.
- The Year that Changed Everything- Cathy Kelly. First of her reads and I loved it.
- It Started with Paris – Cathy Kelly.
- The Storyteller- Jodi Piccoult **Do terrible deeds define us or can we be someone else with time?
- Secrets of a happy marriage – Cathy Kelly
- Homecoming – Cathy Kelly.
- Dead to Me – Lesley Pearse. Love that it was about strong female friendships and personal endurance.
- Without a Trace – Lesley Pearse
- Just Mercy- Bryan Stevenson *** There is now a movie being made on this book, check it out.
- A River of Stars – Vanessa Hua. What a dud, don’t bother.
- Me and my Sisters – Sinead Moriarty
- The Secrets Sisters Keep – Sinead Moriarty
- Between Sisters – Cathy Kelly
- This Child of Mine – Sinead Moriarty. Skip it at all costs, this could have been a short story or a novella at best.
- Our Secrets and Lies – Sinead Moriarty
- Unnatural Causes – Richard Shepherd. This helped with my morbid fascination with dead bodies.
- The House on Willow Street – Cathy Kelly
- I owe you one – Sophie Kinsella
- Washington Black – Esi Edugyan. This was certainly an over hyped book, I wouldn’t recommend it.
- Home Fire – Kamila Shamsie *** I simply loved it, check it out.
My book of the year was The Great Believers. This book deals with the burden of being left behind to confront the memories of a sad time. Also, just how far we have come since the first days of the AIDS scourge. Please do yourself a favour and also read it.
Notable mentions were: Home Fire: A Novel and Becoming.
Books I wanted to like but just.did.not: Washington Black
How many books did you get through last year?
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I jammed to this song so much in 2019, it was my highest played gospel song.
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This song is giving me pause in this season of my life. God still moves, He still works, He breaks all chains and He can work even where situations seem dead and hopeless.
This short film challenged me to love my work and to do it to the best of my ability.
I love window seats … they are so dreamy and this one has additional space at the bottom
There is something about wearing a jumpsuit to a wedding or on a wedding lineup
I love the pink couch .. what a dream
There is something about this dress ….
I love podcasts and on my commute to work and back home, I have been catching up on some good episodes this week.
- I love Ear Hustle and this week they had a Q&A session, I particularly loved the bit where they went round asking the guys what their prison theme song would be. If this is you first time, the boom boom room is definitely my all-time favourite episode.
- This is Uncomfortable, a new podcast I got into was talking about class anxiety. Something that I can definitely associate with. Well, I loved how the lady in question just broke it down in a way that made me think of my own discomfort with money.
- Aminatou and Ann also talked about all the money feelings we have. One of their subjects was saying how they sit with a group of their friends and everyone writes down their annual salary, they jumble them up and pick them out say them aloud so even if you do not know who earns that much, you at least know they are in your friendship circle. Mind-blowing, would love to see the same from my friends.
- Woman’s Hour talked about period sex – the good, the dirty and freaky J
- The Mr is left handed so this episode from Radio Lab hit me personally. The previous two stories were also quite impressive.
Happy Listening 🙂
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This being the last week of my maternity break, I thought I would share some of the lessons I have learnt as a new mom. Please share your own lessons in the comments, thanks.
- Newborns make interesting sounds right from the beginning. Leaving the hospital the little one giggled … we should have known she had grand plans for us later that night.
- They try to turn their necks from side to side initially, at least she did.
- They are your co-partner in breastfeeding. FACT.
- Breastfeeding makes you feel insecure – get a good lactation consultant on standby and attend a good birthing class that included breastfeeding lessons.
- It does take a village, first kids are naturally born resilient coz how do they survive with parents who don’t know what they are doing????
- … but you should also control the type of visitors you get. In the early days I caught myself making lunch and teas for visitors, very very sad.
- Trust your instincts always. This took me a while to get used to but it does kick in, thank God.
- You fall in love with them coz they pin you with that intense penetrating gaze and then one day they just smile and you are captivated.
- I will honestly admit to the fact that I did not initially fall in love, like day one. It took me a week or two but when I got there, I was fully in love …
- Newborns aren’t fazed by hiccups.
- They hate to bath, at least she did. It took
three full months for it to become bearable.
- You are initially tired, lack of sleep and childbirth, but you soon learn to cope.
- The nature of the relationship with your partner will change. The most important thing is to talk about it and give each other some grace. Also, get some zzz when you can, lack of sleep exacerbates errrrthing.
- Baby breath and baby farts don’t smell at all
- Changing dirty diapers is actually not the worst thing.
The best part of it all though is getting to know her an experience that I would liken to a slowly opening rose bud.
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Enjoy these beautiful baby pics from a very gloomy Johannesburg
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In this season of late nights and quiet early mornings, of little cries and fussy babies I am learning three truths about God and really reflecting on that.
- God the Creator. Throughout the pregnancy I have seen how God creates little beautiful people and the level of care and His great attention to detail. His ways make sense and when you read the Science behind it all, you cannot help but worship Him deeper and love Him even more.
- God the Provider. Isaiah 49:15 talks about how just as mother will never forget the child she is breastfeeding so also God will never forget us and will always show us compassion because He has engraved us on the palms of His hands. God knows all the details of our lives and He sees to all our needs from the small to the large. He is our Source and Sustainor.
- God is Love. I love my daughter and it sometimes overwhelms me just how much the little lady has captivated us and then I think that God loves me even more than that. That He loved me so much that He sent His only begotten Son to die for me. Oh how He loves us!!
What does God mean to you as we approach this Easter season?