…. although I would change the fact that she had to transform into the mainstream to get a seat at the table. What if the mainstream changed to accommodate her and she did not morph into a gatekeeper for the new “other”.
Today, I want to focus on my parents and the values they have imparted in me that I admire and hope to replicate with my children.
- Their work ethic. My parents inspired my sisters and I to work hard, to be our best and not to be limited by gender, our circumstances or other life setbacks. They themselves came from such humble beginnings and accomplished so much that by their actions and choices, you were inspired to try your best.
- Their relationship with money. As far as I know, my parents never bought anything on credit. If they couldn’t save and get it, they did not get it. Also, to save all your money, save even if you have no immediate plans, just save.
- Family first. My sisters and I always knew (know) that we were important and that we mattered to them, that they gave us their best and withheld nothing from us. They loved and even, liked us, and we never doubted this. We are our parents best investment and choice and there is something comforting in that.
- I love that their parenting style did not require them to compare any of us. To them, we are unique, we are individuals and each success was celebrated on its own and each failure dealt with separately. As a result, all five of us are friends and continue to do the same thing with each other to date.
- Faith and the role of God. He is over and above all things, always has and always has been.
- Choice. Marry when you want, there is no pressure to marry or in fact conform because we are women. Study what you want at school – whether Physics or Home science. Learn how to slaughter a chicken or change a tyre, just because you are only girls, you still need to know.
- A love for books. Yes!!!
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In this case, my partner. What do I love most about him? There are so many things, but I had to list the top three:
- His devotion to family. I don’t think we would work so well if we did not have this in common or if we were not assured of the others commitment to their family and therefore each other.
- His ambition and work ethic. Outside of myself and my female friends, he is easily the most driven and hard working person that I know. I suspect that he even works harder than me, always gives 150% of himself, always, every day.
- His ability to chill. He is the perfect epitome of work hard and play hard. And to be honest, I need that because even when we go on holiday, I usually have 10,000 things planned and he is OK to do only one thing a day.
- Lastly, I know said three, but this must be said, his relationship with money. His aversion for credit, his desire to save, his eye on the long-term. All of this and more.
What do you love most about your significant other?
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- This article captures how a good policy intended for women can conversely benefit men.
- Tips to help one eat in moderation.
- Again this article on how African women’s bodies are fetishised and no one really cares for us. They never loved us!
- This place has been popping up quite often, should try and stop by before the cool kids monopolise it.
- For anyone looking to study for a PhD. Some valuable advice.
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At my first job, we had a dedicated “DJ” that would send us Friday Tunes to
stop us hanging ourselves get us all into the weekend always with the title “Friday Tunes” and this post is definitely meant to be a shout-out to those good old days.
Enjoy and have a super duper weekend!
Travelled with some friends this weekend and so the Sunday reads were a bit late but here goes …
- A perfect age to get married? HUH? How old were you when you got married/ will you wait before you get married?
- Looking for various ways to use tomatoes in your cooking?
- Because I always wanted to be a pathologist …
- Because my two sisters have sons, here are a list of things that mommies of boys can do together.
- Obama will be in Nairobi for the weekend (and the city has shut down)
- I want to meet this girl. We could be friends. I am sure.
- I like this video and the subjects discussion on relationships, race, being foreign and gender.
- People over migration policy any day!
- If you are looking to make a very South African dish– mieliepap bread.
- Such a positive story. There are people whose lives are truly driven by a cause bigger than themselves
- Cauliflower tice biryani salad! YUM!
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Show me someone that often uses these words and I will show you a pompous management consultant.
- Big Dig
- Deep Dive
- Low hanging fruit
- Quick wins
- Big picture thinking
- Value Add
Urrrrgh but sadly when used, the effect is to appear intelligent and to immediately gain the attention of all the attendants in the meeting.
Updated to read: Please also check out this Reddit link with similar babbage.
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Some Sunday reads, enjoy!
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I must confess that I am not the kind of person that would generally recommend white noise type apps or any others that boost productivity but not this one! It actually felt like I had managed to bring a trendy cafe into the office (coffice anyone?) and it helped me to focus on what I needed to do because I work in a.very.noisy.open plan.
More details here but from me, its a definite recommend!
If anyone uses it and like it, please lemme know your experience.
I spend almost the entire day with my earphones on, listening to podcasts in between the talk radio station I love. This week I have listened to the following:
BBC Documentaries Three Continents, Three Generations – About the Kenyan Indians.
BBC Documentaries Yellow Cab Blues – Gave me foreigner nostalgia!
BBC Womens Hour Women in Parliament; Islamophobia and the Veil; David Mckee on Elmer – Particularly for the conversation on the veil.
BBC Women’s Hour Life with a Disabled Child; Modern Slavery Bill – SO. HEARTBREAKING.
Focus on Marriage Set the Date: Embracing Young Love – Always fascinates me to hear people advocate for people getting married at a young age.
Listened to anything interesting this week?
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Two weeks ago, I finally got the opportunity to read the November Destiny magazine. This is typically the birthday issue when they introduce various readers to selected mentors. Ah, what am I saying, just look at the cover below.
Herein also is the supplement, “The Power of 40”, looking at top achieving women across the different fields who are under 40 years old. This prompted me to ask myself and indeed a few others the question below.
Do you know what you want out of your career? What are your goals in the short, midi and long term? Should you have these and/or is it ok if you don’t?
I don’t really know what I want right now so I’m just giving myself time to find myself again.
We grow (up) knowing that we can do anything. ANYTHING and we want to do it all. But can’t seem to decide or settle for something so we end up feeling very unfulfilled.
Probably enjoyment actually career progression, being able to live comfortably earning respect and a name for myself.
I read about all these women and I felt underachieved. I am 28 year old, 29 in a few weeks and it forced me to look at my career and wonder, what am I doing? Is there a plan and what is that plan?
But that was the first reaction, I did step away and realise that in the medium term, it’s important that I learn as much as I can, experience different organisation cultures, push myself out of my comfort zone and get involved in different sectors and types of work. That this is the phase to learn and so what if it takes me longer, I will get there and will have learnt a lot more about my strengths and weaknesses and what I like and don’t like to do. And that I am sure will serve me in good stead later.
I also think it’s OK to work with a long-term definite plan and wing it in the meantime. It is OK to be flexible and meander along, provided it brings you to the long-term equilibrium (suddenly had a vision of my Honours and Masters Macro lecturer).
What do you think and how do you plan your career?
Aside: Following this post, I decided to cancel my True Love subscription and rather pay for Destiny. Good choice!!!
The thing that holds you back from learning and growing!
A promise daily from God that we must fear not/ be not afraid!
The emotion that in the last year I had to work double hard to overcome, not give in to the critics BUT be bold enough to step out of my comfort zone.
Today, what is fear holding you back from achieving in your life?
i have to do this jobs at some point in my life
- those CSI special effects people who work on those macabre murders
- an illustrationist for those Alliance Francais french books
- for Survivor-to come up with those tasks they do for reward or for immunity, thaz whar im talking about right there
- a Big Brother producer
Having said that BBA3 is back and if it werent for work! id be glued like glue itself and the Kenyan chick is driving me mad kabisa she just talks too much, Namibi and Nigeria should hook up: i like the girl but she is gonna cost herself if she doesnt give us some entertainment like now! Munya and Ricco and Latoya all stand out for their youth and inexperience coz watotoooo! Had a fall out with a pal of mine recently- quite interesting.
“If all economists were laid end to end, they would not reach a conclusion.”
George Bernard Shaw.
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