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Hey First Time Mama

A friend is waiting to have her first baby any time now and a popular blog I read often asks participants what advice they would give a first time mama and only now am I kind of ready to attempt answering that.

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  1. A birth plan is great, but don’t be too tied to it, things happen so be flexible.
  2. Have a plan for who you want to visit you once baby comes. Be clear what you expect and what you would like.
  3. If your mom or sister, or other trusted female relative can come, let them. In laws are great but for the first one its nice to have someone you are closely related to.
  4. Have someone who loves you look out for post natal depression. It’s  a reality.
  5. Little kids don’t need too much stuff and they outgrow stuff so quickly so don’t over shop it might all go to waste.
  6. If you have a partner, your communication will take a bit of a knock but resolve to work on it and adapt together.
  7. Babies cry. Soon you will develop a tough skin when they do. When you can’t settle them, give them a bath or strip them of their clothes for a little while.
  8. Lastly, you are the best mama for that baby. No one can do it better than you. YOU GOT THIS.


Sunday Reads


Happy Hump Day

Enjoy these beautiful baby pics from a very gloomy Johannesburg




Sunday Reads

  1. Loving these sets of articles about women, women and ambition and the work place.
  2. Thinking of doing this for someone I love.
  3. Something about this video made me so homesick for Nairobi.
  4. Some tips for all the new moms out there.
  5. Love that this guy acknowledges what White Male Privilege has meant for him and his accomplishments.
  6. Kenya goes to the polls in  August this year. A quick primer of some of the issues.
  7. Some great African books to look forward to this year.
  8. Somehow not a fan of all these baby products that work on selling fear to parents.
  9. Some more Obama stuff.
  10. We cannot run from God’s voice, where is He calling you to today?
  11. An effective way to incorporate prayer into your life.
  12. yummy fish recipe.
  13. Getting kids to [always] eat veggies.

Sunday Reads

Greetings from a rainy and cold-ish Cape Town!

  1. New Gilmore Girls episodes coming on Netflix. Be still my heart!!
  2. Welcome back Rory, Old Friend!
  3. So sad this story about dying alone but intriguing what happens behind the scenes.
  4. A cool list of some podcasts to listen to, in case you need some ideas.
  5. Funky (and fashionable) Korean Babies
  6. More on the boy child’s woes!
  7. Some beautiful placards driving the message on #Feesmustfall
  8. Got myself some Castor and Olive oil from this place and it smells DI-vine!
  9. Yummy recipe!! Cauliflower, quinoa and a stir fry

Lessons learnt and a special shout out

Today’s a significant day for me/ do not worry that this will become a wedding/ marriage blog only. Nothing wrong with either category of blog, but I like to think I am more multifaceted than that.

While I fancy myself a new newbie in the marriage game, I would like to share what I have learnt in the last month:

  1. A home is built up gradually with loads of lists. Early on, I was making a meal when I casually reached over to add curry powder and realised there was none because I hadn’t bought any!  So I now have a standard list of outstanding household items that I can pick from the shops  and this list includes basics such as sieves to a food processor!
  2. The Mr and I are so glad to be back to our pre-wedding  selves, it’s amazing and so chilled. I like this version of us so much better. Although the pesky question, “how are the wedding plans?” has now been replaced with the galling one “how is married life?”. Still have no answer to that one!
  3. Sometimes I have a specific way that I know things get done and I almost expect it to run that way. But guess what, we were not brought up in one home and we have to talk through these differences and in my case, compromise or determine a new way of doing things. Little thing, I place cutlery upside on the drying rack so I can quickly pick what I need, the Mr places them face down so you can’t distinguish between a fork or a knife or a spoon 🙂
  4. The toilet. Need I say more?
  5. I am just enjoying being with the one the Lord chose for me and my utter best friend, talking and being in one space and just forging the rest of our days together.

Happy one month love and here is to many, many more until death us do part!

PS: I have purposed not to feel pressured into hosting people over at our house or unpack too quickly. It is our place and we can do whatever we want to, at whatever pace. Also, we kinda hosted y’all to a huge do a month ago so just chill with wanting us to play host again 🙂 🙂

PS2: One month in and you already get the hints, nudges, suggestions and remarks about having a kid. Already! So just pile on the big non-bridal shower panties and grin or get a swift come back for that well meaning aunt, and her cousin and their friend!