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Sunday Reads

Sunday Reads

Sunday Reads

In light of the new phase I am in presently,I decided to share parenting-related articles

Me Lately …

So exactly four weeks ago I had a baby girl and I am currently enjoying the quiet mornings and getting to know her a bit better.


Our Little Miss (OLM)

Our hearts are warm and we and our families feel mightily blessed and this reminds me again of my memory verse for 2019: The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance (Psalm 16:6).

I may be a bit scarce on this here blog but will pop in every so often with posts.


A Beautiful Office

I recently pinned this picture below:

A clever layout in the study, with wall storage shelves and an integrated desk wrapped around the corner, maximises the space. #smallhomeofficefurniturestorage

  • I love the fact that the work area is set up against the window, I love to work facing windows so if my mind wanders I can look at something pretty or unexpected.
  • I love the storage on the left and on the top.
  • It doesn’t hurt that the Mr and I could work side-by-side.


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On being Other


Only Black

Only Female

Only Foreigner

Youngest person

…. although I would change the fact that she had to transform into the mainstream to get a seat at the table. What if the mainstream changed to accommodate her and she did not morph into a gatekeeper for the new “other”.


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38 Books in 2018

See the full list below.

Key: *** Highly Recommend ** Yeah, why not read it *Nah, only read if you have nothing else (No star) I have no feelings on the book

  1. Wizard of the Crow – Ngugi wa Thiong’o ***
  2. A Column of Fire – Ken Follet ***
  3. Her Body and Other Parties – Carmen Maria Machado
  4. Dear Ijeawele – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie **
  5. So Long A Letter – Mariam Bä ***
  6. Silver Sparrow – Tayari Jones *
  7. The Mystery of Mercy Close – Marian Keyes
  8. All the Single Ladies – Rebecca Traister ***
  9. The Buddha in the Attic – Julie Otsuka **
  10. The Black Path – Åsa Larsson
  11. The Break – Marian Keyes
  12. The Bridge to Brilliance – Nadia Lopez with Rebecca Paley **
  13. Whatever it takes – Adele Parks
  14. Fate and Furies – Lauren Groff ***
  15. Still Me – Jojo Moyes ***
  16. An American Marriage – Tayari Jones *
  17. Free Food For Millionaires – Min Jin Lee *
  18. The Spider King’s Daughter – Chibundu Onuzo **
  19. Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine – Gail Honeyman *
  20. The Radiance of Tomorrow – Ishmael Beah
  21. The Hate U Give – Angie Thomas **
  22. The Wangs Vs The World – Jade Chang
  23. Feminism Is – edited by Jen Thorpe ***
  24. Crazy Rich Asians – Kevin Kwan
  25. Bad Feminist – Roxanne Gay ***
  26. China Rich Girlfriend – Kevin Kwan
  27. Rich People Problems – Kevin Kwan
  28. The Ones with purpose – Cynthia Jele **
  29. The Blessed Girl – Angela Makholwa **
  30. Gold Diggers: A novel – Sue Nyathi ***
  31. What it means when a man falls from the sky – Lesley Nneka Arimah **
  32. An Image in the Mirror – Ijangolet S Ogwang *
  33. Flame and Song – Philippa Namutebi Kabali-Kagwa *
  34. A Little Life – Hanya Yanagihara ***
  35. Educated – Tara Westover **
  36. Everything I Never Told You – Celeste Ng *
  37. Nine Perfect Strangers –  Liane Moriarty ***
  38. A Spark of Light – Jodi Picoult ***

My book of the year was A Little Life. This book gave me all the feels and I loved that it was about male friendships. Please do yourself a favour and also read it.

Notable mentions were: Gold Diggers: A Novel and Fates and Furies.

Books I wanted to like but just.did.not: An American Marriage, Flame and Song, An Image in the Mirror and Everything I Never Told you.

How many books did you get through last year?


An African Animated Short Film

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TED’s winter reading list: 78 feel-good books —

Enthusiastic recommendations for reads that will provide you with abundant reasons to rejoice, reflect or recharge, as suggested by TED speakers and TED-Ed educators. If you’re searching for some calm The Peace of Wild Things: And Other Poems by Wendell Berry This little book of poetry is my current morning dose of calm, and I use…

via TED’s winter reading list: 78 feel-good books —

In case you are looking for some great reading recommendations and some great TED talks to listen to.

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Chronic Flex

A condition in which someone feels compelled to constantly bring things that make them look good in casual conversation. It can be the same thing every time or a variety of things; as long as the subtle or obvious aim is to make themselves sound or look cool, it’s a flex, and if it happens all the time, it’s chronic. It’s most obvious when a detail is tossed in that is really unnecessary for any other purpose than flexing.


A variation of ghosting, in which the ghoster continues indirect contact with the ghosted by liking and faveing his or her social media content.


Sad but action packed documentary trailer

Kids say the cutest things ever

Please read this post on cute things that kids say and then look at the comments as well. Below are some stand-out gems:

  • Setting the scene: peaceful Saturday morning. Cup of coffee, book, couch, blanket, fireplace, spouse taking care of the baby, bliss.

Suddenly the 4-year-old pipes up: “Mama. When are you and daddy going to die?”

  • I got in a 30 minute heated argument with my 4 year old once over who took care of her when I was a baby. (I had shown her a newborn picture of myself and it blew her mind to pieces.) She shrieked… “BUT MOM!!!!!! When you were a baby, and I was a baby, who was taking care of me??!! You couldn’t take care of me if you were a baby. Gasp! Oh no, was I all alone?” No matter how much I explained, the more upset she became. We finally settled on… Grandma. Grandma took care of all of us. And with that, the argument was over haha.
  • “Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.“
  • Sometimes I overhear a kid say something funny at a store and start laughing. And then one of my kids screams, ‘why are you laughing? Tell me Tell me!’ And then it gets awkward.
  • My son was at about 2 years old when he saw me coming out of the shower and said “mumma, I love your bajina.” I could not have laughed harder.
  • The other day, my 5-year-old daughter looked at me sweetly and said, “Mama, when you get old and die, can I have your phone?”

All this reminds me of a conversation with my 2.75 year old niece at the time who in a public bathroom asked me rather loudly whether I have a vagina and how I wanted to eat her up whole because I was not sure what would follow my answer! Urrrghs kids 🙂

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Dear Future Daughter

… and this too

first hand accounts of a former homebody

I generally hate letters written to future whatevers but today being Women’s Day in South Africa and because I just watched an advert of ladies giving advice to a younger self, I thought I would give it a try.

  1. Stand tall and work on fostering positive self (body) image. There is so much advise to women today about how they ought to look/ weigh/ what they need to do and this piles on the pressure. Filter out all of these and work with your body type, your likes and bring out the best in yourself.
  2. Work hard at school. Push yourself  extremely hard and do not dim your light so any guy around you can feel better about himself. Keep learning and challenging yourself to greater and better heights.
  3. Surround yourself with female friends that push you to your best and that you can do life with. Female  friends rock!…

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Poems for my Daughter

This still makes me shed a tear. Such fierce mothering …

first hand accounts of a former homebody


When your daughter asks you if she’s pretty, looking like the universe is weighing down her little bones with insecurity, resist the urge to say “Of course, darling, Of course you are.”
Tell her instead: “Everyday, I bless the stars that fell apart to allow your body’s embers to glow to life.”
Tell her instead: “In the 7 billion that exist on this planet you are the only one of your kind.”
Tell her instead: “You are so much more than pretty. The stars that gave you to me made you to be like the sun. You are their best ever masterpiece. You aren’t pretty. You are inspiring.”

Nikita Gill


“i will tell you, my daughter
of your worth
not your beauty
everyday. (your beauty is a given. every being is born beautiful)
knowing your worth
can save your life.
raising you on beauty alone,
you will be…

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