For the longest time I have wanted to try my hand at updating an old post.
A colleague gave me John Legend’s Album to listen to the other day and it just made me wonder! Its really nice and it just made me wonder,is any of that stuff for real? That whole chick when I see you, I feel …. or what, do people really do that? Do they really feel that way about someone else? I have caught myself wondering how two people meet, fall in love and STAY that way? Isn’t that just the greatest mystery of all time- My folks have been together for 33 years and I just wonder at the resilience of that whole thing? How does that work? Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely loyal but to what end? This is why I don’t listen to R n B coz for me,it just isn’t about the beat BUT the words as well!
I wrote this post nine years ago, very single and obviously questioning the whole notion of love. It also doesn’t help that I was only 22 years old at the time.I obviously don’t have the answers but I think maturity has brought some comfort and some clarity.
Is love real? Yes, absolutely and definitely. I think at the time, I had never fallen in love or fallen for someone that loved me back, honestly and authentically which accounts for all the doubt and the skepticism.
Love is real.
Love I have come to discover is what works for two people that are committed to one another and who wish to to continue to be committed. Love is in the little things. Love is the opposite of apathy. Love is a process. Before I planned my wedding, I thought I loved my husband but then we went through the wedding planning process and moving cities and all the other countless things we have experienced together and I discovered I love him more now than 8 years ago. Love matures and love develops. Love has to be based on something or it can shrivel and die. Love glorifies God and inspires other people to also believe in God and that they could also love like that.
Love is what works for the two concerned people.
According to WordPress, today is NINE YEARS since I started blogging. What? Where has time gone?
This here little blog really means so much to me and gives me an outlet to share about myself and some of my interests and I am grateful for this opportunity and for many of you guys that read, comment, like and follow.
Thanks and here’s to many more!!
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If we were having coffee, I would tell you of the different moments when I knew I was grown and I was OK with it. Minute 5:22 of this video.
“As you start to get older it’s about reconciling the fantasy with reality and still maintaining the vision for your life. So that you are going towards what you want but still incorporating the reality of life’s experience and reconciling that certain things you don’t have control over.” Tracee Ellis Ross
We all have this age when it hits us that some of the plans we made as young people will not take the single format we had envisioned.
When I was young, I knew that I would one day be married, never really planned the wedding but knew that I would be married. In my head, I was going to meet my husband at 24 get married at 26 and have my first child at 28 like my mom. Well, when at 23 I enrolled to do my Masters, I knew that this was never going to happen. Also, when I started working and realised the cost of weddings, I knew I had to push it out.
Or the dream to join the World Bank Young Professional Programme? Slowly and painfully letting this one go as I approach 32 and resting on the fact that hopefully I can join the Bank at a later stage in my career.
Similarly, how quickly I dropped the dream to go to the London School of Economics and do my Masters – one day I looked at their prospectus and realised that I was not interested in their course offering.
The dream to live alone before I was married. Things changed and it was fine.
I guess at different stages I learnt that the dream does not have to come in only one format and that you know what, it’s OK to reconfigure, to rediscover to restart or redo. It’s OK. My new thing is to keep it moving and to keep trying forward.
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Over the past three years I have tried to blog each day in October and each time it has been quite the experience! I start with a definite list of what to talk about and I try and make it 31 on the list then in-between life happens and I add some other items in between.
I have enjoyed this October and thanks all for the support. I must say it gets better with each round!!
See you in 2016 God willing!
In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Home Turf.”
- My bed with all its’ styling
- My coffee mugs and the tea and coffee I love to drink.
- My journal
- My earring collection
- The people I share the home with.
I now miss home!!
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I had taken some time off work this week so I the reads will be fewer than usual!
- Ever wondered how headhunting happens for some of the more senior positions? Here’s how … (Audio)
- God definitely made bacon and this would make Him happy.
- Because I am really serious about hanging stuff on my walls and here is a lovely tutorial of how to do it properly.
- These shootings while wrong are so heartbreaking!
- I feel about this exactly what I feel about wedding financing! BAD IDEA!!
- For the econometric geeks out there – dealing with missing data!
- The solution for corruption is not as simplistic or clear-cut as increasing wages. So what to do?
- Caring for your locs. Also, I am sometimes fascinated by the actual voice of some of the blogs I read and this chick is nothing like I expected …
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What do you do with your old prescription frames? I am looking to donate them to a charity in Johannesburg with little luck. Any leads?
Please reply in the Comments or send me an email. Thanks!
PS: I tried The Lions Operation Brightsight and I got no response from them …
As the year draws to a close, I do find myself looking back on the year and feeling very reflective. So I looked back on this little here blog to see posts that appealed to me for one reason or another. It also just struck me how it really does feel like it was just the other day that I wrote them down. Just the other day.
- Memories of a favourite teacher.
- A guiding verse for 2014.
- Cooking poached pears and a sweet potato casserole.
- Reviewing a short stories book that I rather enjoyed.
- Comparing the view of marriage in East and West Africa.
- Rediscovering Avo and Eggplant.
- On listening to podcasts at work.
- My all-time favourite books.
- Ann Patchet on marriage and relationships
- Love you Mom and Porridge
I would cherish the feedback though from you guys. What posts did you appreciate the most? What did you enjoy most and would like to see more on the blog? What did you like least and think I should drop?
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Thanks so much for all the readers this month, keeping up with a daily barrage of articles, as I tried to do what’s become an annual Blogamonth in October.
Here are a few links I have read just today that stuck with me after.
PS: A lot of these are NY Times Articles and you may or may not have exceeded your monthly (free) limit.
I kind of alluded to it yesterday, about why I blog. However, this post was inspired by a conversation with a friend who said that she is thinking of shutting down her blog because the reason she started it is over and she basically doesn’t have new material.
Why do I blog?
Because I love to write and I love to share and save my thoughts in one place. I have always journalled but that runs into different books while this is a bit more static from year to year.
I think I have an interesting voice to add onto the blogosphere and share with some of my followers and readers.
I also read a lot of blogs and always get inspired from that to do and try and be a better blogger which I then like to try out or respond to on this platform.
More than that, I blog because it makes me happy. Very happy.
Why do you blog?
Source: April 17th Prompt
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- Politics – I might react to something but it won’t be an analysis, merely my opinion.
- Economics- which is odd because I am an Economist. I just find that this is my way to unwind from what I do for a living.
- Swear words or any other coarse language.
- Religious bashing although I will talk about my Christian faith.
- Fashion – I might like an outfit but that’s that!
- Very personal stuff about me because I enjoy having an anonymous blog.
Yikes, it’s been 7 years since I started this little ol’ blog and I still love it just as much.
Sorry for the silence, I feel like I have forgotten to write and so easing back into work is taking much longer than I thought it would. Will be back soon with interesting posts!
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Thank me later
If I did not primarily blog to make myself happy and to try and chronicle my thoughts, opinions, likes and dislikes, it would get awful boring and lonesome. Must say there is nothing like spending time agonising over a post, mulling it over and then returning to it, editing until the final product is good and then hitting post only for no comment or interaction, and sometimes, even a “Like” would do.
So there, I said it, it would feel nice to have that public acknowledgement from time to time.
Must say though, the best feeling, more than a “Like” is notification of a subscriber and the ensuing debate in my head as to what in my writing must have pulled them in and for me to try and write better/ differently to draw in even more.
Or nothing like having a comment from a blog that I love and admire and it feels so good to have them come along here to my space and also comment.
I also do understand the people that read and move along, I do stalk other bloggers from the sidelines and comment in my head or feel with them when “real life” happens to them but never comment in person. I too “feel” as I’m sure all my loyal reader and subscribers do as well and for that I am grateful to keep doing this and keep sharing of myself.
I have had it on my to-blog list for the longest time to do a blog recommendation citing some of the blogs that I love and why. And I will get to that, for now, please see some that I have come across this week and added onto my Feedly/ gone through all the archives to catch up on.
First started in November 2011, Chef Afrik is my African food and travel lovechild. The site’s motto, “Cooking my way through Africa one country at a time”, indicates my pursuit as a Kenyan diasporan to discover the continent of Africa through its food. As well as showcasing food from all over the continent “In the Kitchen”, I also enjoy interviewing people who work with African food, whether as food writers, bloggers or chefs in my “Get to know” series.
Though the original goal was to focus solely on African food, the site has evolved to also include my fascination with African travel. In 2014, I will begin a traveling through the whole continent writing about travel, food and youth culture. I will document my travel preparations here in a series called Eat, Pray, Africa.
Black Bliss Wedding
This blog is dedicated to people of colour and their breath taking weddings that each one of us admires.
What have you read recently that has captured your fancy?