Possibly in a bid to cheer myself up after the last post, I found the following images of black women and it made me insanely happy so enjoy!!
Black is beautiful
Black is strong
Black is me and I love it!!
I happily enjoyed all of these books that I would happily recommend any of them.
Posted in books, Heart matters
Tagged Africa, Ama Ata Aidoo, Angela Duckworth, chick lit, Chika Unigwe, death, Emma Straub, Grit, Jeffrey Archer, Jodi Picoult, life, marriage, Paul Kalanithi, Petina Gappah, Pumla Dineo Gqola, race, Sinead Moriarty, womanhood, Yewande Omotoso
I read this a couple of weeks back and it made me feel something. Not sure what, but as a Black Women, I felt something and so I shared it.
A close friend of mine and I often talk about how women always put others first in their lives and they then become a last priority. Also, how women’s self identity often lies with others: I am a mother, a wife, a daughter and never a broader sense of what they really are like. This was made only too real for me in recent weeks when a friend of mine was rushed to hospital seemingly suffering from stress-related issues that then became physical. This scared me and drove home the idea of self-love.
How do I take care of myself?
I will start by being honest to say that I don’t always put myself and that when I don’t it does make me feel not so great. This is what I rather try and do instead:
Exercise. It helps me to burn that anxious energy but it also forces me to be in the moment and to enjoy or even breath through the pain and after, I am more relaxed and more capable to deal with whatever the issue was.
Prayer & journaling. Writing and praying also helps to start my day on a positive note, it helps me commit my actions to God and to trust that it will be well. I make a lot of lists and more often than not, they are useful because I don’t lose my mind.
Evaluate priorities. I find if you keep doing stuff, people keep expecting you to continue with it and rarely will they report back and ask that you stop. So it’s up to you to really stop, step back and determine whether this activity is still as helpful for you. Same thing with money. Do you need to keep spending all that money? Does that debit order still make sense for you?
NO GUILT. A part of me knows that I cannot do everything and that I cannot be everything to all people but sometimes I finish that sentence with, but watch me try. And when it doesn’t work out, guilt is an easy second feeling and I have to say to myself, no more! None of that around here.
Sampling magazines and books at Exclusive Books. Particularly on a quiet evening when it is not too busy. Every so often, that’s my plan for the evening and boy do I look forward to it.
Catching up with a friend whether via email or WhatsApp. So enriching and often empowering.
Listening to Music. Whether an oldie or a new album. Something about music just makes me so happy.
Tea. Because tea …
A couple of other interesting readings with a more conclusive list of things to start doing today to do better for yourself:
Posted in good, Heart matters, home, life
Tagged friendship, good, health, Heart matters, home, life, music, relationships, self, self love, tea, womanhood
Happy new month and here are some lovely reads for you this morning!
- Interesting read on the long and short run effects of labour rigidity and the effects of being in a Union.
- Separating truth from myth when considering the focus, magnitude and nature of Chinese investment in Africa.
- Do married men or women give more and what does the success of household cash transfers depend on? Very interesting read – one of those where you wanna look at the underlying data.
- In true Economist style, here is a slightly different view of the trust games between spouses.
- What actually works where the intention is to keep girls in school. Here is a three part series attempting to answer that: One. Two . Three (Out in October, will update it later and link back to this).
- This is why we need more women in power, but generally, a closer consideration of who we select to positions of leadership.
- I don’t know, this just broke me!
- In light of Tuesday’s post, Kim Cattrall talks not having babies.
- All eleven of these successful relationship tips I FULLY AGREE WITH.
- How DO YOU tell your little child they are HIV Positive? I feel like the article was too simplistic but hey, let me know your thoughts …
- How do they get the writing on the Parmesan rind? Well now you know …
- Ever lost something? Wondered where it went? Wished you could track it down? Well this lady lost her iPhone and found out where it went.
- Stuff you can do to stay active mentally.
- This is a good primer on blogging and why I write a post or not sometimes.
- Zuccini Rice gratin
- Ginger carrot salad with Quinoa
- A simple enough DIY Project
Posted in design, Heart matters, home, marriage, school, working
Tagged Africa, China in Africa, conditional transfers, design, economics, education, Heart matters, home, households, Kim Cattrall, Labour rigidity, marriage, motherhood, recipes, school, trade unions, Wendy Williams, womanhood, working