All of this week I am thinking a lot about relationships and one long-term one that I have is with my dreadlocks.
After seven and a half years, I really really still love my hair. It is now waist-length and just as exciting as when it was first locked. After all these years, I still get excited at having my hair washed, twisted and then styled. Before that I delight myself by looking at pictures online and choosing an appropriate style and then looking forward to the big reveal at the salon. When I see someone with dreadlocks that either have a style I would like, that are dyed beautifully, longer and sometimes even shorter than mine but just look so good, I get the worst dread envy.
And all of the above is how I know that I made the best move and I still don’t regret it. Nah, nope, I am still good. CONFESSION: Come Summer, I do want to trim them slightly shorter, just an itsy bitsy bit.
In the meantime, below are some styles I am looking forward to in the next couple of months.
For a wedding or special date night
I love the braid at the front, it elevates an otherwise boring style
I love the take on the traditional morehawk – but a part of me keeps thinking of the weight on your head.
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This beautiful bedroom. I pinned it because I love the seat at the foot of the bed and the simple lines and colours.
This young girls locs
I love the openness of this bathroom. Definitely appropriate for a master bedroom
This clever use of space.
Anything pretty caught your eye recently?
- I have read ten of these 50 must-read books by African female writers.
- Exclusive Books publish their first newsletter focused on African Lit. Great start.
- A South African church in pictures.
- Hot jams to get you ready for the week ahead!
- “Beyonce’s style of feminism is not my own.” Chimamanda Adichie.
- I would venture a guess that most black women have this growing up with black hair story.
- On intersectionality. Yaa Gyasi’s essay on what it means to be Ghanaian in America.
- Pettinah Gappah’s recent short story.
- Love and Johannesburg. The couple reminds me of the Mr and I.
- 21 gifts for the creative black woman in your life.
- A guide to Africa’s dictators. Here and Here.
- Rachel Strohm highlights work by the team at Democracy in Africa in putting together a long reading list of articles on African issues by African scholars.
- This page showing Everyday Africa.
- But why is my leader like this? Not sure we need mandarin studies in Uganda just yet.
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I have often said that my hair philosophy is as low maintenance as possible.Hence, you can see how this is such a departure from that when I say that I recently had a hot oil treatment and thereafter made my own hair oil spray.
My formula is:
- 15ml Coconut Oil
- 10ml Olive Oil
- 10ml Almond Oil
- 5-10 drops Tea Tree Oil
- 250ml (Distilled) water
I selected this recipe because I have been experiencing a dry scalp/ dandruff issue and wanted to fix that. Also, I went for one hair talk when they talked about the fact that manufactured products have so many undesirable products in them as well. Please see the chat below showing the benefits of the different hair oils in order to understand why coconut is the main oil. Tea tree oil is the essential oil I used because it also combats dandruff.
Hope you have a blessed and restful Sunday, enjoy your reads!
- iPad Apps for the Kitchen
- A good story coming out of Africa
- Some lovely tips for dyeing natural hair.
- Boo to gender stereotypes but I also believe in traditional roles for wives and husbands 😦
- A recipe I tried and definitely loved past week that had very good results – Zuccini Cake.
- A feel good story that we all always need to hear every so often!
- Beautiful natural hair looks to rock for weddings and other formal occasions
- I love this couple. Viva!!!
- An easy ricotta gelato recipe if you are interested to try
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… I am going to cut my hair like this
I love the fade out and the colour AND it is quite low maintenance, which works well with my hair philosophy that is least effort required.
Love, lust, love love love ….
I have added a couple of natural/loc styling blogs to my Reader and below see some of the pics that have had me go awwwww!
I recently read Americanah, Chimamanda’s most recent offering.
The back of the book states:
From the award-winning author of Half of a Yellow Sun, a dazzling new novel: a story of love and race centered around a young man and woman from Nigeria who face difficult choices and challenges in the countries they come to call home.
As teenagers in a Lagos secondary school, Ifemelu and Obinze fall in love. Their Nigeria is under military dictatorship, and people are leaving the country if they can. Ifemelu—beautiful, self-assured—departs for America to study. She suffers defeats and triumphs, finds and loses relationships and friendships, all the while feeling the weight of something she never thought of back home: race. Obinze—the quiet, thoughtful son of a professor—had hoped to join her, but post-9/11 America will not let him in, and he plunges into a dangerous, undocumented life in London.
Years later, Obinze is a wealthy man in a newly democratic Nigeria, while Ifemelu has achieved success as a writer of an eye-opening blog about race in America. But when Ifemelu returns to Nigeria, and she and Obinze reignite their shared passion—for their homeland and for each other—they will face the toughest decisions of their lives.
Fearless, gripping, at once darkly funny and tender, spanning three continents and numerous lives, Americanah is a richly told story set in today’s globalized world: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s most powerful and astonishing novel yet.
- Race IS a big deal and we can’t be disingenuous and pretend otherwise.
- I also didn’t know I was black until I came to South Africa five and a bit years back. Even now, there is a separateness and difference, I am not like the local Blacks, I just don’t have the same kind of heritage issues.
- Loved how she highlighted the inter-racial differences talking about how a given Black character took the pains not to take an opinion because his family happened to be wealthier than the rest or how he was pro-Hilary and not pro-Obama. We are not a homogeneous nebulous cultural group, we are different.
- I loved how she spoke of the run up to Obama’s victory. I totally identified with that, the fear that he might be shot dead at any point/ they would discover something awful about him that would force him to get disqualified and then his Pastor spoke and I thought, no!
- Loved how she characterised the desperation that so many Africans have regarding moving abroad. Very palpable.
- About natural hair? I rock it, you don’t! Moving along swiftly.
- Saddened by the portrayal of Nigerian women and the fact that men appear to be firmly in control.
- It was nice to see her talk of modern day Nigeria and the fact that people do hustle and we appreciate this better when we contrast Obinze in London versus Obinze in Lagos/Abuja. Big boy about town!
- The apparent ending of the story further saddened me. Does Ifem take him back or not?
- While the story is pretty much about Ifem and Obinze, there were a few hollow characters. Curtis? Blake?
- Loved the names. So beautiful.
- Curiously, I do wonder what the problem was with the girl that Ifem first baby-sat. Was she molested, a psychopath,what?
- Dike, was another underdeveloped character, or maybe not, I am not sure. (Wondered how the name is pronounced as I read the book)
I loved this book but it made me immediately want to go back to Half of a Yellow Sun.
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All I’d say, never wear the wig ever again!
Viola Davis decided to ditch the wig she traditionally wears in favour of her little ‘fro. How young does she look!
This totally shows the finger to all the glossies that imagine that when african women with natural hair want a make over, they are secretly crying out for a weave intervention. Sometimes, they just want to have their hair done up like Viola on the right.
ION, it would have been nice if she had worn the Oscar for Best Actress, watched the Help and she did a phenomenal job!