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Write about your first name: Are you named after someone or something? Are there any stories or associations attached to it? If you had the choice, would you rename yourself?
I am named after my dad’s sister-in-law because at the time of my birth, she had been particularly helpful to my grandmother. Aside: In Africa, grandparents are typically called upon to name their grandchildren on behalf of their children. So being named after this lady is truly a testament to the relationship between her and her mother-in-law.
Although my father does not have the exact meaning of my name, over time, he has come to say that it refers to a woman who talks a lot as at the root of it, is something along the lines of “talk a lot”. Hence, I am a woman who talks a lot and anyone that knows me will certainly attest to it and I certainly became my name.
Given the choice, I probably would not name anyone after me because what I particularly like about my name is the fact that it’s unique and another person known to me will change that. (PS: My aunt and I live in separate countries so it still works).