- Quick lunch/snack recipe: Chickpea “tuna” salad
- Cooking with lentils & beans
- Don’t really like vegetarian burgers but these lentil meatballs sure look yum!
- This article made me realise why people do not share the names of their babys before birth, but clearly once they are born, the name is not safe either!!
- Pics of the beautiful Cape Town.
- Beautiful pics of the Festima Festival in Burkina Faso.
- Some non-traditional baby gift ideas.
- Breaking up is hard. Breaking up in the day of Facebook, is something else altogether.(NY Times Article)
- A better way to think of your to-do list.
- Get Tested. Be Faithful. Remain Faithful. Otherwise, always use protection.
- On buying friendship in Japan. Read this and thanked God for my genuine (free) friendships.
- This lady did what I always say to my single pals about putting themselves out there in order to meet a guy!
- Sad that the recently legalised Marijuana business in the states has a colour preference.
- How do you feel about motherhood?
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Tagged AIDS, break-up, Burkina Faso, Cape Town, cooking, design, Facebook, friendship, gifts, Heart matters, Japan, life, lists, motherhood, parenthood, racism, recipes, relationship advice
I recently joined this group on Facebook and it has been quite the eye-opener. The spirit of the group is very commendable – a bunch of mothers wishing to discuss issues of marriage, parenthood and careers and all other similar concerns all while helping each other. Great stuff! Unfortunately this group is closed so the reader cant really appreciate some of my thoughts:
For the most part, it is helpful and asking a question, WILL get you an answer! There are some rather honest and helpful women here that go out of their way to help and give fair advice to each query.
Advice on this group must be taken with a pinch of salt as the different members came from diverse cultures, religious groups, social standing and, and!
The most common themes discussed are issues with domestic workers, a cheating spouse and whether to stay or leave him alone, the other woman involved in promiscuity with your husband and certain very titillating sexual queries that leave little to the imagination.
There is something about anonymity and the licence that it gives people to be bold in the kind of questions they ask and the nature and tone of advice that is given! The mommy wars and the judgment? All. VERY. Real. Sadly!
When I hate this group, its when I read some of the comments and some of the inquiries from the women and while it shows the complexity that is being a wife or mother today – what with both partners working out of the home and most likely full-time -it does not go further and push the boundaries and talk of the new roles for women and men. A recent conversation centres around whether as a woman you should wash your husbands’ hands or whether he should go to the sink and wash his hands. To me, this is neither here nor there because if a guy will leave you because you did not wash his hands, he is not worth it!!! Also, it’s never clear to me what some of these guys actually also do for their marriages and how they grapple with what its like to be a man/husband/father in this day and age. And I feel like this group is missing out on having the bigger, more significant discussions that we need to having as a matter of urgency!
Why am I on this group? Probably because there is never a dull moment but I would enjoy it better if I had a whip to smack some of the frequent commentators.
Posted in Heart matters, home, madness, marriage
Tagged Facebook, Heart matters, home, infidelity, Kenya, madness, marriage, marriage in Kenya, mommy wars