I have been studying James over the last couple of weeks and one of the themes he speaks repeatedly of are the words of your mouth. In fact, he specifically states that “perfect” is the man who is able to bridle his tongue. This has got me thinking of how I can restrain myself from saying certain things and therefore prevent myself from falling into unnecessary sin.
This morning I read this blog post cautioning against using secular language rather than speaking the words of truth that many in the world today need to hear about. This article brought to mind another area of the tongue that could lead us to fall into sin – the hollow words we speak of that while well meaning do not really mean a thing or profess the hope we have in Christ.
This article got me thinking of the number of times I have said rather vaguely “All the best”, “Good Luck”, “Best Wishes” or “I will think of you” rather than I will pray about this to Jesus and ask that His will be done. How many times have I heard of people talking of an energy/ the forces out there and not called it out and asked them to rather refer directly to Jesus – and this is true also of Christians and non-Christians.
So from the post, this is the challenge that I would like to leave you with.
I would like to challenge you, as a believer in Christ, to evaluate the phrases and hashtags you throw out to a world desperate for hope. It may seem harmless enough, but the vibes you’re alluding to are vacuous. Our friends aren’t strong enough on their own to “keep their heads up” and “pull through” life’s challenges, like vain platitudes suggest. No, they were made to find their strength in the God who made them. Theology matters. It doesn’t take long for someone to see the way we deal with the circumstances in our lives. We either have confidence in God or confidence in the flesh.
I read this post the other day and it caught my fancy because for some reason, I am great friends with women and can literally count the number of males that I count as close and personal friends. So this post is largely about how valuable female friendships are. This post can and should be read as a follow up to the tribute I paid to my incredible sisters earlier this year.
Jessi of naptime diaries asks:
Do you have women to walk with that speak to the wild and free soul within you? Do you have women that remind you you are a part of a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a people of his own possession that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness and into the marvelous light? Ideally, we’d all have a few.
This paragraph triggered in me the importance of growth in friendship and in of encouraging each other and speaking little words of wisdom to each other. My particular gifting in life is to do just that – I am the friend that likes to hear what other friends are doing and look for a way to encourage, to push my friends to do more and actually bring to pass their plans. It’s not unlike me to take out a pen and paper and document the conversation, the plans and the timelines. I am that friend that believes in others and wants to see them do their best and that’s how I help release in other people the freedom to be themselves and reach for their dreams. And if they don’t make the established goals, then it’s also fine and we can start over and again.
Do I have the same friend in my group? Absolutely, someone that will tell me when I step out of line. Someone that will pick up from something I said that I am not OK and follow up with me and check that I am. Listen to my dream and my plans and go through the process with me.
I firmly believe in the bond that women have with each other and the positive effects that stems from these. I am not one to tear another’s success down or talk ill of someone just so I feel better about myself. I am not that kind of woman and it demeans me to get involved in such actions. Women are said to be their own worst enemies but I think its a narrow view – women are the best gift God gave to other women and we have to harness that. HAVE TO!